Parenting Choices That Have Felt Bold

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This is day 28 & 29 in a 31 day series on Living Boldly. To read the other posts, go here. Welcome!

Let me preface all of this by reminding you of my definition of boldness:

Acting in hope, despite fears

Boldness is relative. It depends on what your hopes and fears are.

So when I tell you what bold parenting has looked like for me this year and you’re tempted to laugh because to you it’s no big deal–or think I’m crazy because why on earth would anyone ever do that?–just remember it’s all relative. ๐Ÿ™‚

2014 Parenting Choices That Have Felt Bold

Telling people we were trying for baby #3

Telling people pretty early when we got pregnant with baby #3

Going on a 2.5 week road trip to Canada and Maine with a toddler and preschooler and a 12-week pregnant belly.

Going on a three hour whale-watching boat trip with two small children who hadn’t napped in a couple days, during lunch time, with pretty much only chips and peanuts for lunch (the nearby gas station had the worst selection ever).

Going on a whale watching trip while pregnant, given my checkered past of boat trips while pregnant.

Going on a four hour hike with small children.

Going on a two hour horse-drawn carriage ride in the woods with small children. (Noting a pattern here?)

Deciding not to put my four year old in a formal preschool program.

Deciding to teach my four year old cursive handwriting before print.

Building what I imagined to be a Waldorf-inspired wonderland but what ended up as more of a mud pit in my backyard.

For me, the lesson in all of this isn’t that boldness always yields amazing outcomes.

When my son transformed into a feral cat on our road trip, I questioned our sanity. The four hour hike had some rough patches. I’m still tweaking the mud pit scenario. And I have no idea how the cursive thing is going to fly.

But even in the worst circumstances, I’m still glad I chose boldness. Acting in hope (and hopefully also with some shred of wisdom) seems way better than acting in fear.

If things go south, there is still good to be found and lessons to be learned. And if things go well, I’m just more empowered to act boldly in the future.

What feels like bold parenting to you?

P.S. You might also want to check out my blogging-friend Emily’s series, 31 Days of Gentleness for the Rest of Us. It compliments a series on boldness well :).

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Jenn is a mommy of three and wife to her best friend. She enjoys good books, dinner guests, elevenses, and proper apostrophe use.

  • what was the logic behind cursive first? That’s interesting!

    • I’m curious about this as well! What program (if you are using one) are you using? I’ve thought about the same but have yet to find something.

      • The link above is to the company’s site that produces the materials we’re using (Cursive First). They’re really big on starting with gross motor stuff before moving to fine motor, which I think developmentally makes sense. So there’s lots of drawing with your finger in salt/rice or on chalkboards/with paintbrushes and water before you actually have them do it on paper.
        Which is to say, we aren’t actually writing in cursive yet ;). So I don’t know how it’ll go but we’re giving it a shot for now :).

    • Good question :). I think first you have to decide if you want them to learn cursive at all, ever. Then, if you do, it seems to make the most sense developmentally for them to learn it first. Apparently, that’s the way it used to be and nearly all European countries still do cursive before print. Here’s some of the rationale: http://www.swrtraining.com/id29.html
      But even with all that, I can still feel a little wacky saying it :).

  • Bold parenting- looks like going on a five month trip around the States and a few Provinces with no stroller/playpen and having our plans changed on the fly, a few times.

    Good times. =)

    • yes, if there is a “boldness in parenting” award, it goes to you, my friend. You had me at “no stroller/playpen.” ๐Ÿ˜‰