On the Last Place


Happy Friday! This lovely morning I’m joining Lisa-Jo and the Five Minute Friday bunch again. Today, everyone’s writing on the topic of the last. Will you join me and read, write, or both for five (ish) minutes? Here’s how it works:

  1. Write for 5 minutes – no editing, no over-thinking, no backtracking.
  2. Invite others to join in.
  3. And then: go visit the person who linked up before you and drop them a note!

Five Minute Friday

Somehow, I can’t seem write these 5 Minute Friday posts without thinking of moving. Maybe it’s because we’ve passed the 18 month mark of living in Farm Town and that’s usually when we move.

This is now the longest we’ve ever owned a home. Ha.

The last house we owned was lovely; a 1960s remodel on a street with beautiful old trees in a neighborhood we loved.  There was a park nearby with a little bridge over a winding creek and running trails hidden in the trees.

Now I look back and remember those things, the things I loved about it. I don’t think much on the stress and mess of the remodel and the various less desirable aspects of the house.

Before that was the two bedroom apartment where we brought Bun after she was born. It was also the longest place we’d ever lived (two years) and the first time we’d ever re-signed a lease. I don’t think the property managers understood my glee that day.

When that place comes to mind, I don’t think of the challenges of apartment living or the lack of green space. I think of how often we filled that little home with friends and how lovely it was to just. be. there. for longer than 18 months.

To me, the moral of the story is this: The “last place” always seems better in retrospect.

So I figure it’s far better to focus on the good aspects of my current home than to fuss about the bad.  Change what I can, make it cozy and homey, and love what there is to love about it.

Because when we move–whether in three years or twenty–there are things I will miss dearly about this place. Better to dwell on those now and embrace the time I have here.  Sometimes easier said than done, but it’s what I’m shooting for.

When your current place becomes your “last place,” what will you miss?

About Jenn

Jenn is a mommy of three and wife to her best friend. She enjoys good books, dinner guests, elevenses, and proper apostrophe use.

  • Debby

    Hopping over here from Five Minute Friday. Yours was the LAST post before mine. I’ve moved much over my life so I really connect with what you’re saying. You have the best outlook on it too. This life won’t last and you’re keeping your perspective on that. Well done!

  • Kelly S.

    Stopping by from FMF (and chuckling to find myself in the company of another grammar crusader!). Thanks for your reminder today to appreciate and even dwell on the goodness of the current home . . . and the simplicity of what we have, and don’t have, as newlyweds.

    • Kelly, grammar crusaders unite! 🙂 Rejoice in the simplicity! There will be less to box up when you do move! 🙂

  • Rachel Beran

    I guess, our plan is to stay in this place “forever”, but I’ve lived long enough to know God’s plans are often different than ours. 🙂 I would miss so many things about our home!! Thanks for the reminder to live focused on the positive. Today I will thank the Giver of all good gifts for the things I love about home. Great post!

    • Totally hear you on our plans, Rachel! I never would have planned to move 11 times in 8 years :).

      Thanks for stopping by!

  • Jo Rose

    Because when we move–whether in three years or twenty–there are things I will miss dearly about this place. Better to dwell on those now and embrace the time I have here.
    I love this thought! Thank you for sharing your heart. I know I need to focus on the postive more also. Have a lovely weekend!

  • scott zarse

    Or…… If you have to constantly keep convincing yourself that there are good things about where you live, you take the hint, realize where you were was the bomb, and do whatever you need to to move back where you belong.

  • We’re reaching one year in this place as well and its kind of exciting to be here for another year (which will be the longest we’ve been anywhere). Such good words about embracing the now rather then always looking back.

  • Jenn… our posts are sooo similar today. I am stuck in thinking of all I will miss when we leave this house. We just had our 13th showing tonight in 19 days and I am frazzled to say the least. THANK YOU for writing this. It helps to not feel so alone. And I thought we moved a lot! (5 times in last 10 years) You put me to shame! High fives. Stumbled across you in FMF… glad I did.~

    • Dawn, moving is so hard! I’ve done it a lot, but it never gets any easier.

      Ha, I’d rather not have “put you to shame” :), but I have seen purpose in each move, which has helped a ton.

      And oh my word, the showings. Yes. Overwhelming. You are not alone and you will get through it! Hugs! 🙂

  • marlen816

    I have lived in my parents’ house for 6 years longer than we anticipated and have not always had the best attitude about it. I think I will be very sad if and when it becomes the last house we live in since I am just starting to embrace it as our home. Thanks for the proper perspective. Visiting from FMF. Have a great weekend.

    • Oh, I can imagine I’d have attitude challenges too :).

      But I’ll bet you will leave with some sweet memories as well. Thanks for stopping by!