On Reflecting


Happy Friday! I’m joining Lisa-Jo and the Five Minute Friday bunch and writing on the topic of reflect. Will you join me and read, write, or both for five (ish) minutes? Here’s how it works:

  1. Write for 5 minutes – no editing, no over-thinking, no backtracking.
  2. Invite others to join in.
  3. And then: go visit the person who linked up before you and drop them a note!

didn’t know him well.  There were a few of us that prayed together in a small group before church.  I learned much from that little group, all older and wiser than myself.

One time I (badly) played Guitar Hero at his house and his wife made eclair cake.  I still make that eclair cake.

And he preached the most incredible, unusual sermon I’ve ever heard.

He left this world yesterday.

As I reflect on scraps of memories, I’m reminded of all the cliches about this life–that it’s short, that we never know what day will be our last, to make the most of the time we’re given, that we don’t know whose lives we’ll touch.

These truths feel both harsh and hopeful, difficult and motivating.

But mostly, they confirm my desire to live with focused intention, to spend my life on what’s real and lasting and not what’s fleeting and ultimately unsatisfying.

And even though that’s a really Big Important Idea, I think it can work itself out in something as mundane as making a meal for friends.

Or in opening my home amidst imperfections.  Or in just showing up and being faithful, even when what I’m doing doesn’t feel amazing or world-changing.

And by God’s grace, I can make little choices that turn into a life well spent.

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About Jenn

Jenn is a mommy of three and wife to her best friend. She enjoys good books, dinner guests, elevenses, and proper apostrophe use.

  • It’s amazing how a passing can make us reflective, even if it’s not someone we know exceptionally well. It sounds like this man impacted your life, in ways that I’m sure he did not even realize. Make the most of this impact, live on in the ways that he has taught you, pass his legacy on to others as you in turn impact them. It’s the best way to remember him.

    Visiting from FMF. Here’s my contribution:


  • Tris Bendickson

    My heart goes out to you for the loss of your friend. Those seemingly simple moments, sharing cake, can be the most meaningful connections we make. Thank you for sharing your reflection 🙂

  • Imagine how different we wold live if we all opened our homes and our conversations with such intention. It would not only honour your friends words and life but point towards The Giver of life too!

  • “Showing up and being faithful when it doesn’t feel amazing or world changing”…..that speaks to my hearts cry so often, but He has reminded me time and time again, when we are constant, He shows His character in us, because He is constant too. And perhaps that tiniest act is the one that so many desire. Such beautiful words.

    • Kimberly, love what you said about our tiniest acts maybe being the ones that others desire–we really can’t know what the results of our efforts will be, it seems like it’s just a matter of being faithful and leaving the results to God, huh?

      • Yes we may not have any way of knowing what one word one prayer one act might be the straw that causes a stoney heart to break and turn to Him to be made flesh again 🙂

  • Judith Heaney-mcKee

    Jenn, thank you for so beautifully and so willingly sharing your heart and a piece of yourself with us today. Your writing is indeed inspiring and contains so many kernels of truth, especially this: These truths feel both harsh and hopeful, difficult and motivating.

    May we each make choices that lead ultimately to a life well lived.

    I’m glad to have been introduced to your blog through Five-Minute Friday.

  • mercynotes

    Oh wow, I really enjoyed this. So touching and thought provoking. Sorry to hear about this.