Loving and Sharing the Home You Have: An Interview With Emily of Jones Design Company

Sharing Your Home with Emily of JDC | A Simple Haven

To celebrate the release of my (free!) eBook, I’m thrilled to continue the Loving and Sharing the Home You Have series with an interview of Emily of Jones Design Company.

JDC is one of the first blogs I read consistently and Emily is just lovely. Besides having fabulous style and loads of talent, she’s warm, gracious, and completely genuine. (And her art prints are some of my favorite gifts to give).

What else? She’s experienced the ultimate in sharing her home: hosting long-term guests.

emily

Hospitality can be scary. Depending on your personality and your feelings about your home,  inviting friends to dinner can unearth insecurities and anxiety.

Try inviting friends to live with you for several months.

Emily’s done it twice.

On two occasions, friends lived with them for about eight months. In both situations, their friends were new to the area, so Emily and her husband invited them to stay until they found/built their own homes.

This might be my favorite room in Emily's home

This might be my favorite room in Emily’s home

Exactly How Did That Work?

Each time, there were multiple children involved. Newborns, even.  Bedroom assignments were rearranged.  They got creative with space, at one point giving the baby an over-sized closet.

Since they have a two-story home, they housed their friends upstairs and shared their downstairs master bath with their own kids.  Emily says that division was helpful in creating some personal space for each family.

Having lived with friends on two occasions myself, I will agree that one reason it worked so well in the first case was that our friends graciously gave us our own bedroom, bathroom, and mostly free reign over their office space. (Neither family had kids at the time).

Can home-sharing be done in closer quarters? Sure. But it’s certainly more sustainable with adequate personal space.

That sliding barn door is also my favorite

That sliding barn door is also my favorite

Some other nooks I like. Ok, I like it all.

Some other nooks I like. Ok, I like them all.

Challenging, But Worth It

Even with a reasonable division of space, were there challenges? Of course.

As Emily says,

“you forget how important privacy and spending time with just your own family is. When there is another couple hanging out or extra kids needing attention, it wears on you. Plus, you can’t hide anything – every quirk and habit, whether good or bad is on display.”

Truth.

My biggest fears in moving in with friends were that there would be conflict and that my flaws would be glaringly apparent to all.

Turns out both happened, but I needn’t have been afraid.

There were some hard conversations and unexpected struggles.  However, with honesty and lots of grace, we emerged from our time living together closer friends than before.

Emily shares a similar perspective:

“Even though it was challenging, the experience was very refining for our family.  While we may not volunteer to host another family at this point (especially now that we have four kids and our house is much fuller!), we would absolutely do it again if the need was there with one of our friends or family.”

Emily's master bedroom

Emily’s master bedroom

Why Host Long-Term Guests?

Because it’s freaking awesome.

Ok. Not everyone would be freaking awesome to live with. I get that.

I am probably not freaking awesome to live with half the time.

But let’s assume that we’re talking about reasonably gracious and honest (the two most important qualities of house guests, if you ask me) people. And that everyone has adequate personal space.

In such cases, here’s why it’s awesome:

*You get to share what you have. Your home is a gift and you get to bless someone with it.

*You’re modeling generosity and hospitality to your kids.

*It’s good for you. Those are Emily’s words and I so agree. Living with friends revealed junk in my heart and forced me to deal with it.

*Sharing meal prep!

*Free babysitting! Take turns going out after the kids are in bed. Easy peasy. (No kids? Even easier :)).

*Deeper relationships. Emily got to live with her best friend and their kids developed sibling-like friendships.

I’m so grateful for my time spent both as a long-term guest and as a long-term host. Each time, Hubs and I were in challenging seasons of life–but we got to walk through it with friends who loved us.

Have you ever hosted long-term guests or been a long-term guest yourself? Or does the idea totally weird you out? 🙂

*All photos are from Jones Design Company. Check out the rest of Emily’s lovely home here!

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Jenn is a mommy of three and wife to her best friend. She enjoys good books, having dinner guests, and elevenses. She is not afraid to lead a one woman crusade against the rampant misuse of the apostrophe. She is afraid to adopt kittens before the baby turns three.

  • Elizabeth

    Oh, the living room is really cool. Love that sliding bard door, too. That picture of the flowers in the mason jar is gorgeous!

    Totally agree with people having enough space when they stay with you for long periods of time. When we used to live in Asheville, friends would come for four days to a week and stay with us. Sometimes we’d mountain climb, other times we’d eat our way through the city together. It was really fun. MIss that 🙁

    • I love friend visits like that! And Asheville–?! One of my favorite places I’ve only driven through but would love to stay longer in 🙂

  • 1. Her house is so very gorgeous. I’m fond of the owl pillow, my girls saw it too and were delighted to see ‘Hedwig’. 😉
    2. It is so, so good to host people. And so hard. You can’t hide behind a two hour visit, the real stuff comes out.
    3. Adequate personal space/time is a key component to making it work well. We’ve lived for family for months at a time and friends in NZ. We’ve also had a brother stay with us for months at a time. I wouldn’t jump at the chance to do it again but I would say yes because it’s so beneficial.

    Novel over. 😉

    • 1.) I know! 2.) So true. 3.) Totally. I’m thankful it’s worked well in our case and I’m convinced the space thing was a big part of it.

  • Our family of four once hosted another family of four going on five for just under two months. It was a big leap of faith on both ends (only the mums and kids had met before they all came to stay), but it worked out better than I could have dreamed. As others have mentioned already, space was key; our guests often took their kids out in the evening while we got our crew to bed, and my husband and I often retreated to our finished basement to give our guests some adult alone time too. We didn’t always share meals, but when we did, it was a party, and it was great to tag team on child care and running errands. It really helped that our guests had lived with friends as a family before – they were so intuitive about the balance between creating community and allowing for separate family time and space. At the end of the visit, we had turned a stranger and an acquaintance into friends we could always count on in a bind. I don’t think we’d ever gotten as close otherwise.

    Loving this series! Congrats on the ebook!

    • Rachel, I love that story!! I totally hear you about the leap of faith part and I’m so glad it worked out the way that it did.

      Thanks for dropping a note! 🙂

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