You’ve said the heart-twisting goodbyes and you’ve sobbed in the Uhaul.
So much is behind you.
Yes, there are boxes everywhere and since there are no closets, nothing has a home yet, but at least you’re present in your new home. With your family.
And because you’re there with them, this place is now home.
The sooner you start thinking of it as such, the better. I know that feels weird.
You may not even like this new city and it certainly doesn’t feel like home. It’s unfamiliar and doesn’t have your favorite restaurants, parks, and shops. You may not know a soul or the best grocery shopping strategy. Or even the language.
The culture’s a bit different (or a lot different). You can’t make the same assumptions about how people will act as you did back in your old city.
It will take some time to learn to navigate all of this. Maybe a lot of time.
But you’ll find your way. Take a deep breath and give yourself lots of space to breathe, lots of grace.
Moving, after all, is one of life’s greatest stressors. You may not even realize how much it’s affected you until you find yourself weeping in your closet one day.
It’s going to be ok. Mourn the losses of your old home, familiarity, and proximity to dear friends. It’s a hard season, but it won’t last forever. I promise.
This city is your new home. It may not look much like your last place, but it has a beauty of its own. Go find it. Go exploring. Ask around about local favorites.
You will make new friends here. Good friends, different than the ones from the last place, but good. Go find them. Introduce yourself, put yourself “out there,” do that speed-dating-like-thing at your new church to find a small group.
Be the friend that you’d like to find.
This new house/apartment/duplex/etc. will soon be full of warmth and life. Get stuff off the floors and onto the walls as quickly as you can manage. Invite your neighbors over for dinner.
And when it all just feels like too much and you don’t have energy for more than the basics of life, just stop.
Pour a hot beverage of choice. Call a dear friend who listens well and makes you laugh. Call someone who’s done all of this before. Go take a shower or a nap.
And pick things back up tomorrow. You’re one day closer to this place feeling like home.
Have you ever done a big move?