Day 22 :: Flexible Hospitality

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If intentionality is how hospitality usually happens, then flexibility is how it happens the remainder of the time.

Being fairly plan-oriented makes intentionally come naturally to me.  Being fairly plan-oriented can make flexibility a challenge.

But the more I say yes to last-minute plans, the easier it gets.  And I’m rarely sorry I agree to them.

Whether it’s my husband running into the neighbors and inviting them over for pizza or taking over hosting duty for our church small group, an unexpected opportunity to practice hospitality is also an opportunity to remember:

It doesn’t matter if the laundry isn’t all put away.

It doesn’t matter if I don’t have any salad fixings to go with the pizza.

It doesn’t matter if we’re in the middle of a remodel/pet catastrophe/busy season of life when nothing gets cleaned very well.

What matters is friends coming together, sharing hearts (hopefully over a bite of something), and feeling loved.  And if I remember that, it makes saying a last-minute “yes” a whole lot easier.

Do you tend to plan more or do more spur-of-the-moment hosting?

This is a post from a 31-day series on Real, Simple Hospitality.  Read all the other posts here.  Check out all the other 31 Day-ers here.

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Jenn is a mommy of three and wife to her best friend. She enjoys good books, having dinner guests, and elevenses. She is not afraid to lead a one woman crusade against the rampant misuse of the apostrophe. She is afraid to adopt kittens before the baby turns three.

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  • Ashley

    Just got started on your 31 days (yes … on the 1st of November) and this one … My whole job revolves around flexible hospitality, but at home I’m TERRIBLE about it. But I’m working on it, starting with talking myself into the fact that I care more than anyone else ever will about how clean my house is. And keeping frozen cookie dough on hand. 🙂