Happy Friday! I’m joining Lisa-Jo and the Five Minute Friday bunch and writing on the topic of friend. Will you join me and read, write, or both for five (ish) minutes? Here’s how it works:
- Write for 5 minutes – no editing, no over-thinking, no backtracking.
- Invite others to join in.
- And then: go visit the person who linked up before you and drop them a note!
If you’re been hanging out here for any length of time, you probably know that once upon a time, I moved eleven times in eight years. That was two years ago.
We’ve been in the same house for two years and four months. A record and a wonderful reprieve from the apartment hopping, packing, starting of new jobs, figuring out new grocery situations, and saying good-bye to dear friends.
In each of the seven cities where we lived, I was so very blessed to have deep, real friendships. And as we lived in most places an average of a year and a half, that’s quite a feat.
I chalk it up to a combination of us “putting ourselves out there” and the grace of God.
And the fact that in most of those places, we didn’t have babies (or had just one), giving us way more time and flexibility to “put ourselves out there” than we have now.
If there’s anything I’ve learned about friendships from all that moving, it’s that they require effort.
Effort when you don’t feel like making new friends because you just miss your old ones. Effort when you don’t connect with anyone right away.
Effort when someone offends you or you offend them. Effort when you move away and your heart is all torn up from missing them.
But I’ve also learned that the effort is so worth it. Because by the grace of God, all that effort has resulted in friends that feel like sisters.
It makes it so much harder to uproot, but if the alternative is shallow relationships, I’ll take the pain that comes with leaving.
What have you found to be true about making friends where you are?
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