7 Things I Learned This May

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Spring was slow in coming this year and while my roses are still a little behind, the pool has opened and we’re all wearing shorts and eating Popsicles. So it must nearly be summer.

I’ll be honest: this May has been an adventure in survival mode. Between being newly pregnant, chasing two littles, and Hubs starting summer school, life at my casa hasn’t been measuring up to anyone’s normal standards.

My laundry room is permanently home to a Mt. Vesuvius of laundry, our diet is dominated by frozen pizzas, my daughter has watched nearly every episode of Little Bear on Amazon Prime, and my son calls the television “Emma” (because after Little Bear, we keep watching the 2009 BBC version).

Reading makes me nauseous most of the time, so what I’ve learned this May has been gleaned from daily life–in my few coherent moments.

What I Learned This May

1.) Survival mode is just for a season.

At least that’s what I tell myself. The way I’ve been operating lately isn’t ideal, but it’s the best I can do given my present circumstances.

And these circumstances will change. Hopefully sooner rather than later. But until then, I’m trusting that the best I can do will be ok.

Our bedroom, post magical cleaning
Our bedroom, post magical cleaning

2.) Hiring help is sometimes the best thing.

This month, we tried out a monthly cleaning service. It was utterly magical. In a few hours, our house was pristine. And while it hasn’t stayed pristine, that deep cleaning should hold us over for a good while.

I don’t know if we’ll figure out a place in our monthly budget to keep doing it, but I’m grateful for the one-time experience.

3.) Accepting help from friends is always the best thing.

Some friends have taken pity on me in my first trimester woes and have watched my babies, brought me pregnancy survival kits, and offered other help. I’m so glad I learned to accept help back when I was pregnant with Bun, because it’s been such a blessing.


4.) Some pregnancy tests really are hard to read. Or they take a long time to show results. Or they’re not that sensitive.

Or: Don’t buy the Walgreen’s brand pregnancy tests.

5.) Notes from the Pregnant Lady’s couch: Nacho Libre is funnier than I remembered. Dan in Real Life is just as good the tenth time. The Secret Life of Walter Mitty way exceeded my expectations.

6.) For me, planning vacations is basically planning where I want to eat.

With our two week trip to Canada quickly approaching, I’ve started to mine Trip Advisor and Canadian friends’ brains for good spots. And I get more excited with each menu I peruse.

Do you have any family-friendly recs in Montreal, Quebec City, Cape Breton Island, or Bar Harbor, Maine? 🙂

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7.) Grace is always there, it just comes in different forms.

Honestly, the timing of this pregnancy initially freaked me out a little.

Yes, we were “trying,” but when I did the math and checked the calendar, I realized that: I’d be in my first trimester during a season of an unusual amount of solo parenting (Hubs working late + summer school), our Canada Extravaganza also falls within first trimester yuckiness, and Hubs has a (unchangeable) school trip scheduled near baby’s due date.

And yet, miraculously, I’ve not been worrying. I’ve seen God provide for us enough in the past to know that He’s fully able to do it again. That doesn’t mean it will all be cake, but I do think it means it will all somehow be ok.

Which in my experience generally means He’ll either give me grace in the form of help from others, the strength to do what I didn’t think I could, or a better/different perspective on the situation.

And thus concludes my pregnancy-dominated list of learnings.  Let’s talk about something else now. What have you learned this month, be it deep, fluffy, or somewhere in between? 🙂

As usual, linking up with the other lovely folks at Chatting at the Sky!

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About Jenn

Jenn is a mommy of three and wife to her best friend. She enjoys good books, dinner guests, elevenses, and proper apostrophe use.

  • staceythacker

    Congratulations! I know you are feeling “ick” but it will get better! I might add I think Frozen Pizza and Little Bear sound divine!


    • Aw, thanks, Stacey! Honestly, I’m really enjoying the pizza 😉

      And ps, super enjoyed your interview on How They Blog a while back! 🙂

  • Congratulations on your pregnancy!! We went to Montreal in January, and I absolutely loved it! The Notre Dame cathedral downtown is gorgeous! I also had the best hot chocolate and crepe (next to the ones in Paris) of my life at the Cafe Juliette Et Chocolat – its a cafe devoted entirely to all things chocolate – don’t miss it! I also loved shopping at a shop called Indigo – its like Barnes & Nobles & Borders meets Anthropologie’s home decor. It was a delight for a book worm. (They have a sister store – Chapters – that I’ve heard is great!) Montreal is so walkable and lovely – have fun!

    • Sarah, thanks so much for the tips!! I am taking notes! 🙂 Indigo sounds fantastic.

  • Thrilled for you! Congratulations:) And I second the hiring help epiphany. It works and it’s awesome. Feel good, friend!

    • Thanks, friend! Now we’ll have enough babies for it to feel like a party, right? 😉

  • Anne Bogel

    I just had to say congrats! (Our firstborn was due on December 31, too. don’t ask when he was born–it’s depressing!)

    Also, I was just about to give a gigantic thumbs-up to Dan in Real Life (which I like) but just realized I was confusing it with Lars and the Real Girl (which I love). Seen it?

    • Thanks, Anne! I’m assuming your firstborn came a little late…? 🙂 I’ve always been “pleasantly surprised” by early babies. (Read: I am never ready when they come).

      Haven’t seen Lars, but I’ll check it out!

  • Our son was conceived during the one month of “trying” where I was kind of hoping it wouldn’t work. Thankfully, my daughter wasn’t at all perturbed about getting a baby brother three weeks before her birthday, and planning a joint party for both my spring babies (or planning two smaller parties) hasn’t been as hard as I feared either. Grace. Always grace.

    • I smiled b/c that’s exactly how I would describe this baby’s conception scenario :). And yes, I feel like most stuff with children hasn’t been as hard as I’d feared. Or when it is, it’s still all somehow ok. Somehow. 🙂

  • Thank goodness for times of survival mode!!! I’m convinced it sometimes SO necessary! Congrats on a new baby on the way! I’m hopping over from Emily’s and enjoyed your 7 things!!!

    • Hey Cynthia! Thanks for stopping by :). Yes, I am becoming completely ok with survival mode :).

  • A little behind, but now caught up! Congratulations!! Hang in there! Haven’t done that part of Canada, but can’t wait to hear about it!

    • Thanks! I am hanging in there. 🙂 Will totally share about the trip! I’m curious to see how it goes 😉

  • We plan vacations around where to eat, too! I love your honesty about what your first trimester looks like. Hang in there, friend!

  • Carla Patton

    Isn’t vacation supposed to be about food?
    Congratulations on your little blessing!
    (Found this post a little late after Emily’s link-up. Hope you don’t mind!)