In fact, it’s probably in most humbling of jobs that the more profound truths are to be found. (See #3 below).
Today, I’m sharing what riches I’ve recently mined from the wonderful world of potty training.
I will attempt to keep this rated what I like to call NP (Non-Parent); that is, I will try to write with the understanding that while I have long since become desensitized to the gross factor of bodily fluids, others–especially non-parents–have not. You’re welcome.
Wisdom Via Potty Training
1.) Comparing your life situation to others’ is fruitless.
It can produce stress when you feel like your situation (or kid’s progress) isn’t what it “should” be…or too much patting yourself on the back when you decide you’re doing better than everyone else.
2.) Focusing on the good cultivates a grateful heart.
In my case, sweet Bun has been struggling with regular potty “accidents” for the better part of a year (their regularity makes me question their classification as accidents, but whatever), but still takes a 3 hour nap daily.
I don’t love cleaning up accidents, but I do love the naps. So I will be thankful for the latter.
And frankly, I would gladly trade perfectly potty-trained for a lovely slice of quiet in my home.
3.) Silence in a bathroom occupied by a toddler never bodes well for Mom (or anyone else, for that matter).
4.) The messy tasks of life provide excellent training in humility and patience.
There’s something about holding a baby while grasping for a toddler who is diving off the toilet into the trashcan because she wants to inspect something disgusting that you cleaned up earlier and will probably clean up 3 more times before the sun sets that makes you go, “this is my life now?”
Yes. This is my life now. It’s messy and there are tough days, but it’s mine and I love it.
And I can’t do it without Jesus. And hopefully, I’ll start responding to the messes more like him.
5.) In parenting, there’s more than one way to skin a cat.
Yes, certain things are pretty clear–treat them with patience & kindness, no chocolate right before bed (hear that, Hubs?), babies must use pacifiers (at least in my house that’s become a non-negotiable…my son’s initial ambivalence to the paci was downright frightening).
But in the areas that aren’t quite so clear-cut, the longer I’m a parent, the less I’m convinced of my formerly dogmatic beliefs…the less tightly I cling to methods and formulas…and the more I realize that what’s best for one child or family is not necessarily best for another.
Lately, my goal has simply been figuring out what’s best for each child, in each particular season of their life–by watching them carefully and praying like crazy. And if that means changing up our methods from time to time, so be it.
6.) Toddlers have an insatiable urge to construct mountains of toilet paper.
When we open the generally-closed bathroom door, my younger toddler cackles with glee and rushes through the opening with the intensity of linebacker (or something else fast and determined-looking…this is why I shouldn’t use football analogies) in hopes of pillaging the powder room.
Alternatively, he goes into stealth-mode and accomplishes his work while we are none the wiser. See #3.
7.) Plans are best held with an open hand.
We planned to do the whole three-day potty boot camp thing. On day three, I felt like I was living in a circle of Dante’s Inferno.
Enter Plan B: the slower, more relaxed, potentially less effective but infinitely less stressful (for me) approach.
8.) There’s no shame in hitting the pause button.
If you have to camp out on the bathroom floor for hours with your three-month-old, waiting for your toddler to go potty, you should probably table the whole thing for a few months. Or not. You could also push through and everyone could end up just fine. (See #5).
There is a season for everything and it may not be your season for ______(fill in the blank with something you are pursuing but may need table for now).
9.) Maniacal laughter after an “accident” is not a good sign…of anything.
I often lived in fear of this laughter, which always seemed to express “I have absolutely zero intention of pursuing bathroom-related life skills.”
10.) It is, in fact, possible for a toddler to wear 5 pairs of pants at once. In case you were wondering.
What life lessons have you gleaned from the less-glamorous aspects of your days?